Congratulations to both Marion & Rachel who have won this month’s ‘Reading of the Month’. Usually only one reading is chosen, however because there were so many good ones I couldn’t help myself, I had to answer two – I wanted to answer them all!
I hope you find value in my responses.
Marion’s Question:
Dear Heidi,
I don’t know if you can answer this one or not but my question is this; if a person has suffered an addiction that they have failed to overcome in life and subsequently pass over as a result of it, what happens when they get to the other side? This would cover alcoholics, drug addicts and others… you could even extend it I guess to obsessive compulsive disorders and the like.
Does the person (spirit) assess their lifetime and have to address the addiction and its consequences in spirit? Do they still crave whatever their physical addiction was, can this be satisfied or does it just fall away? Does the addiction in life serve any learning purpose? As you will know, most addicts (unless they have managed to overcome it) always fail to see it as it truly is and never see the impact on their loved ones so do they ever learn from the primary experience of their lifetime?
I would be very interested and most appreciative to hear your views on this subject.
Thank you.
My answer:
This is a very interesting question and one that many people are curious about. In my experience, (I can only give you a view from my experience so you must only accept what reasonates with you and put to one side what doesn’t). I believe what is commonly known as the ‘ego’ lives as part of us when we are in a physical body. Its purpose is to protect the physical body from danger, to alert us when we need to be careful. This is necessary because the ’spirit’ part of us has no concept of death or loss, so it could be a bit careless and walk out in front of a bus so to speak, and therefore the body would be lost, and so would the experience of the ’spirit’ in a human body, therefore the ‘ego’ is in place to make sure nothing happens to the physical body. So for instance, fear of death is the fear of the ‘ego’ because indeed, that part of us is lost when we no longer have a physical body to protect.
The ‘ego’ is the part of us therefore, that can get hooked into addictions which is why when a lot of people become more spiritually aware, the desire for things that we could become addicted to start to evaporate. In my experience a lot of people I have come across when they have engaged on a development path have lost the desire to drink too much, smoke, over eat, over shop etc etc. This is because the ‘ego’ has become more settled into accepting its role of protecting the body.
So to get to the point, I believe when those who have passed and have never got to resolve their addictions, they do not keep them. The reasons being they are addictions of the body not the spirit. I have seen often, when a spirit that has died from an addiction wants to communicate with a living friend or relative when they come through, they are often start very embarrassed. During times when I have given messages through mediumship, my way of telling for instance, when someone has committed suicide (when they are a spirit) is they are deeply embarrassed and take a little while to talk often because they are sorry for the trauma they have caused. They often though come through to explain what their reasons were. They know what they did and they don’t argue it, they usually are just very apologetic but do give their reasons and what was going on in their mind at the time. I have also found this to be true of those who have died from drug overdoses and alcohol related deaths. Part of their way of dealing with it is often to show the medium through their body, how they died and the experience of it. It then seems to free them of any reasonate guilt they have left behind. Quite often they will explain what they learnt from their addiction during their lifetime but usually this is only realised in death because their ‘life’ was run by an overzealous ego that thought it was in charge, therefore whilst that was happening they would find it a challenge to know why they have chosen the route they have, and what it is their psyche was indeed learning. I can’t say this is the case for every death of this type of circumstance, I can only comment on my experience.
With love
Heidi x
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