Change your mindset, change your life

Congratulations to both Marion & Rachel who have won this month’s ‘Reading of the Month’. Usually only one reading is chosen, however because there were so many good ones I couldn’t help myself, I had to answer two – I wanted to answer them all!

I hope you find value in my responses.

Marion’s Question:

Dear Heidi,

I don’t know if you can answer this one or not but my question is this; if a person has suffered an addiction that they have failed to overcome in life and subsequently pass over as a result of it, what happens when they get to the other side? This would cover alcoholics, drug addicts and others… you could even extend it I guess to obsessive compulsive disorders and the like.

Does the person (spirit) assess their lifetime and have to address the addiction and its consequences in spirit? Do they still crave whatever their physical addiction was, can this be satisfied or does it just fall away? Does the addiction in life serve any learning purpose? As you will know, most addicts (unless they have managed to overcome it) always fail to see it as it truly is and never see the impact on their loved ones so do they ever learn from the primary experience of their lifetime?

I would be very interested and most appreciative to hear your views on this subject.

Thank you.

My answer:

This is a very interesting question and one that many people are curious about. In my experience, (I can only give you a view from my experience so you must only accept what reasonates with you and put to one side what doesn’t). I believe what is commonly known as the ‘ego’ lives as part of us when we are in a physical body. Its purpose is to protect the physical body from danger, to alert us when we need to be careful. This is necessary because the ‘spirit’ part of us has no concept of death or loss, so it could be a bit careless and walk out in front of a bus so to speak, and therefore the body would be lost, and so would the experience of the ‘spirit’ in a human body, therefore the ‘ego’ is in place to make sure nothing happens to the physical body. So for instance, fear of death is the fear of the ‘ego’ because indeed, that part of us is lost when we no longer have a physical body to protect.

The ‘ego’ is the part of us therefore, that can get hooked into addictions which is why when a lot of people become more spiritually aware, the desire for things that we could become addicted to start to evaporate. In my experience a lot of people I have come across when they have engaged on a development path have lost the desire to drink too much, smoke, over eat, over shop etc etc. This is because the ‘ego’ has become more settled into accepting its role of protecting the body.

So to get to the point, I believe when those who have passed and have never got to resolve their addictions, they do not keep them. The reasons being they are addictions of the body not the spirit. I have seen often, when a spirit that has died from an addiction wants to communicate with a living friend or relative when they come through, they are often start very embarrassed. During times when I have given messages through mediumship, my way of telling for instance, when someone has committed suicide (when they are a spirit) is they are deeply embarrassed and take a little while to talk often because they are sorry for the trauma they have caused. They often though come through to explain what their reasons were. They know what they did and they don’t argue it, they usually are just very apologetic but do give their reasons and what was going on in their mind at the time. I have also found this to be true of those who have died from drug overdoses and alcohol related deaths. Part of their way of dealing with it is often to show the medium through their body, how they died and the experience of it. It then seems to free them of any reasonate guilt they have left behind. Quite often they will explain what they learnt from their addiction during their lifetime but usually this is only realised in death because their ‘life’ was run by an overzealous ego that thought it was in charge, therefore whilst that was happening they would find it a challenge to know why they have chosen the route they have, and what it is their psyche was indeed learning. I can’t say this is the case for every death of this type of circumstance, I can only comment on my experience.

With love

Heidi x

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My question is combo of a psychic development question and a personal topic.

Q: How reliable is a person’s intuition? As in, intuitively I know I should be with someone from my past. I’ve always known this, perhaps earlier I described it as a gut feeling but in the past few years I would consider this being my intuition and that “I know” this will happen. This was always reinforced by getting his card (King of Swords) constantly over the years in my tarot spreads. Yet there is absolutely nothing whatsoever solid to say that I am right. In fact, his present status would point to the contrary.

I’m afraid I’m confusing wishful thinking with intuition but because it’s always been so strong I’ve never questioned that I may be wrong up until now as nothing has ever come to fruition.

Many thanks,

Yvonne

Heidi’s reading for Yvonne:

Hmm interesting! This feels to me as though yes, indeed your ‘feelings’ relate to a deep connection with this man rather than this be your imagination. The reason I say this is because when I look at your energy (energy isn’t logic therefore it has no distance, it can be seen / felt regardless of whether a person is present) it feels to me very calm, collected and by no means obsessed with the past. Your energy is carefully observing rather than trying to jump in to this man’s life. Therefore it is again, your intuition that is picking up on the connection between the two of you rather than your personality desperate to rekindle the past. There is certainly unfinshed business between the pair of you and you are much more conscious of it than he is. I feel he is a man who hides behind bravado, and perhaps makes jokes to hide his feelings. It feels to me at the moment this chap has a partner but he can’t quite commit to this person because he can sort of feel something in his past, but wouldn’t be able to immediately identify what it is he’s ‘thinking’ about. This to me suggests that indeed Yvonne, you are very much in touch with your intuition and you’re quietly listening to it. If life takes you on a path where you and this man are not back together you will though find resolution. This is because you trust in your own instincts.

Your story reminds me of someone whose story is very similar. I can tell you the conclusion of that one! A woman I’ve known for 10 years or so had an almost identical set of circumstances. She was with a man for a while and they split up but she had a feeling like yours, (for years) that they were going to be together. She carried on with her life, and as far as she knew he was with someone else, he hadn’t contacted her etc etc. But she had this feeling and everytime I saw her sporadically she would mention it and she felt she had to move to a certain town.

Anyway, I bumped into her at an event a couple of years ago in the town she thought she should move to, she invited me to her house. Her house was the house she lived in with her husband-to-be. He was indeed the man she knew she’d be with. Apparently, after she moved to the town her intuition had told her to move to, she bumped into this man from her past as she walked home from work one day. The rest is history, they; I know got married last year, and I think this year in their life so I’ve heard, is the patter of tiny feet…

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Tip Number 1 – Clearing your home using Epsom Salts

Disclaimer: Be aware that should you choose to do this exercise for clearing your home with Epsom Salts and Surgical Spirit there may be sizable flames.

There are several ways to effectively psychically protect your home. Protecting your home is important as your home environment can either help to enhance or deplete your psychic energy. Protecting your home also means clearing it of long standing old psychic energy that is no longer of any use. The best way to clear a house of old energy is to use surgical spirit and Epsom salts (see below), which can be purchased from any pharmacy. Other methods include placing a bowl of water in the middle of a room. Leave the bowl to stand for a couple of hours, and then pour the water away, preferably outside in a flowerbed. Burning Lavender essential oils in an oil burner is also an effective method.

How To Clear Your Home Using Epsom Salts
1. Place the Epsom salts in a fireproof object such as an old frying or saucepan
2. Pour the surgical spirit over the Epsom salts; the amount will depend on how large you want the flames to be
3. Light a match and drop it straight into the pan (please be careful). Stay with the pan until the flames have burnt completely. Repeat in each room you wish to clear.